The 10 Commandments of Social Networking

10 Commandments of Social NetworkingThe 10 Commandments were given to us thousands of years ago.  Sure there was no Facebook or Twitter back then, but the principles still apply today.  Here’s my take on how the 10 commandments apply to social networking.

1) Thou shalt have no other gods before me.

Don’t allow social networking to become a god.  Are you losing hours at a time to Farmville?  Do you interrupt meals with family and friends to send and receive messages?  Is your first impulse when you wake up to check email/Facebook/Twitter instead of listen to God? Has posting become more important than praying?  If so, maybe social networking has become a god.

2) Thou shalt not make unto thee any graven images.

Throughout history people have created things to remind them of God – sculptures, stained glass windows, crucifixes – which people eventually began to worship instead of God.  Likewise many people have become enamored with the potential social networks have as a platform to share the gospel, connect people to their church, or share spiritual insights.  Be careful not to allow the tools used in the name of God to become more important than your relationship with God.

3) Thou shalt not take the name of the Lord thy God in vain.

Don’t use acronyms that take the Lord’s name in vain like OMG.  Don’t use acronyms that are shorthand for profanity.  In general consider the coarseness and vulgarity of what you say online.

4) Remember the sabbath day, to keep it holy.

Be intentional about taking breaks from social networking so you can spend focused time with God.

5) Honor thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long.

Kids, respect the social networking rules your parents set up.  Parents, set up social networking boundaries for your kids.  Install filtering software on all computers.  Set rules for when and how much time your kids can spend online/texting.  Warn them about friending strangers.

6) Thou shalt not kill.

Jesus said, “You’ve heard it said, ‘Do not murder.’ …But I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother…[or] says, ‘You fool!’ will be in danger of the fire of hell.” (Matthew 5:21-22)  Don’t insult or hate on people online.

7) Thou shalt not commit adultery.

Guard yourself against porn.  Use filtering/monitoring software on your computer and mobile browser and get yourself an accountability partner.

Guard yourself against emotional affairs.  Just because you’re not having sex doesn’t make flirting or deep soul-level conversations with someone who’s not your spouse are ok.

8 ) Thou shalt not steal.

Don’t steal time from your employer, your spouse, or your kids for social networking.

9) Thou shalt not bear false witness against thy neighbor.

Don’t lie or slander people online.

10) Thou shalt not covet.

Don’t envy people’s blogs or the number of friends, followers, or comments they have.  Don’t envy the hot studio photo from 5 years ago they use as their profile pic.  Don’t envy all the parties, vacations, and accomplishments they choose to post about. Much of what people post about is put in the best possible light and their struggles and shortcomings are omitted.

#1 and #10 in particular can be a struggle at times for me.

How about you?  How do you see the 10 commandments applying to social networking?  Which are you tempted to break?

Paul Steinbrueck is co-founder and CEO of OurChurch.Com, elder of CypressMeadows.org, husband, father of 3, blogger. You can follow him on Twitter at @PaulSteinbrueck and add him to your circles at Google+ as +Paul Steinbrueck.

26 Responses to “The 10 Commandments of Social Networking”

  1. I like this. Of course I know all these things, but it is good to see them all together. I especially like the "thou shalt not murder" one. For some reason people online seem more hostile than they are face to face. Sometimes it's just the way the words appear without the context of voice and inflection; but often people just attack people.

  2. This is great. It's a reminder of how easily the lines can be blurred and we can unintentionally slip into the abyss of ungodliness.

  3. Hope you don't mind, I'm tweeting this. :)

  4. A very good reminder. I think number 3 is the one I see all the time and have even been guilty of. Will do better.

  5. appreciate the blog. I seldom find time for social networking online as I use a public computer so have limited time, but know these principles are right on target. Keep up the good (God's) work!

  6. this was a great artcle. I thank God for it.

  7. Good thoughts here Paul. I think that adhering to these would help keep the false security of online relating at bay.

  8. Good stuff. i have actually reproduced this on my blog http://allthessentials.blogspot.com/
    And also reposted it on facebook. Thanks>

  9. Richard Armstrong Jan 27, 2010 at 6:07 pm

    Thank you for posting the 10 commandments on you internet people will read them and copy them down

  10. This is very, very good. I couldn’t have done better myself. I wish I could, but then that might transgress the 10th commandment.

    I’m keeping this to ponder over anytime. More power to you!

  11. May I post this on my church web site in a newletter and give full credit to the author.

  12. Hi Linda, thanks for asking. You can post an excerpt, like say 3 of the commandments, with a link to this post for the rest. That would be great! But I would appreciate it if you would copy the entire post to your site.

  13. Nice!!!!!!

  14. This article is great. It gives people some perspective on their online activities and how they can compete with attention to God.

    I've reposted this article on my blog at

    http://www.saysomagazine.com/component/content/ar

    …using your guidelines, of course.

  15. Good thoughts here Paul. I think that adhering to these would help keep the false security of online relating to Christian social networks

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